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It’s Good to be a Unicorn.

This sticky note is taped on the wall at my desk to reaffirm the things I do.

Why does it feel good to be a unicorn and what does it mean to be a unicorn you ask?

For me, it means that I am happy with being unique and I embrace my weirdness and the choices I’ve made in my life.

My path was (and still is) a long and meandering one. Much like a quest or bildungsroman, my coming of age was very different from what I would call “standard.” Meaning, I went into the military after high school, then worked in corporate, then went university, then back to corporate, then retirement (which just means doing things on my terms), to now being creative and working on the things I put off for 30-plus years.

Now I do things for me—not because I have to.

I never embraced my unicorn-ness until now. I’ve always been different and I’ve been proud of that, but now I don’t let the fear hold me back like I did for the earlier part of my life.

For example: I wanted to be a radio DJ back in high school. I think I would have been good at because I love music and I believe in the power of music. My mom was not having any of it and told me I had to find a real career and get a real degree.

Well here I am 35 years later doing a podcast because I freaking can and I am having fun doing it. People have been telling me they like my voice, they like the show and they like the content. I am beyond jubilant with this feedback.

That joy was 51 years in the making and I regret nothing. I now have the confidence to put myself out there and have fun. I am powerful, creative force for good with loving intentions and a joyful spirit, trying to create a better world for myself and others.

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When I think about how much fear held me back and how much farther I could be now, I just have to remind myself that I needed to grow on my terms and cool my jets. It seems that my life is a constant hyper-speed of delayed gratification. I work hard and fast for a very long period of time for some sort of reward. My life is very much my tattoo: Festina Lente—to make haste slowly.

Festina Lente:,
my tattoo meaning

You’d think I’d be tired always going at this pace but it works for me. I have two speeds: go and stop.

I will keep unicorning until I can’t unicorn any more.

6 thoughts on “It’s Good to be a Unicorn.

  1. K.S.

    I know it’s kind of trite, because everyone quotes it, but Oscar Wilde put it best: Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.

    I don’t know if you remember studying the Langston Hughes poem Dream Deferred but I always associate two meanings with the last line “Or does it explode?”. If you force people to defer their dreams, and never let them pursue them or give them the hope of trying, it can explode in a bad way. Or, if it’s like your pace, with an end goal in sight, I figure it’s like a firework (the pretty kind) — a planned burst of creativity.

    Glad you’re finally getting to be a DJ! I too think you would have been really good at it! Your enthusiasm and joy is catching and isn’t that what we want in radio personalities?

    P.S. Hope your holiday season is calm and restful!

    1. CoffeeFitnessUnicorn

      It takes a unicorn to know a unicorn. You graduated grad school early so that is super unicorning in my book. And Oscar was a unicorn so we’re all in good company 😁. So many good things came from that class. I still chat with Mary it’s so cool to call her that. I remember being super nervous to meet her as my Mentor Professor. Life is so crazy cool. Thanks for the encouragement. I’ve surrounded myself with great friends like you. I’m glad the holidays are over; it was a rough one but we made it through turning pain into power 💪🤘. Biggest hugs to you and your mom🥰🥰

  2. Melanie J Ruiz

    Weird is good. Why choose a boring life when you can choose a fun creative quirky way of life that makes you happy.

    1. CoffeeFitnessUnicorn

      Amen to that!!

  3. Carole

    I have always been a ‘Square peg in a round hole’, a ‘Misfit’.…I like ‘ Unicorn’ so much better…it makes me magical, and not so sad. Thanks!!

    1. CoffeeFitnessUnicorn

      I got you! 🤘

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